Q&A: Problems with Relatives

Q: How can I use my Reiki to help my brother-in law that is an alcoholic and always trying to cause conflict in the family? He is an identical twin to my husband.He does not believe in any form of Reiki, spirits, water witching; thinks it’s just crazy talk. My husband is very supportive of all my gifts. I just want him to leave us alone.

A: In issues with relatives, the most powerful healing in my experience is always to first heal your own reactions to the problem. If you want to try, sit and meditate upon how he violates your personal space and how it bothers you.

Allow all the negativity to come up, and just witness it, not giving it to the feelings, and yet not denying them. Let them come up for healing, and then request Reiki to please heal and resolve these emotions.

This alone should be enough, but if you like, you could even just flood him with love and light every-time he’s around you – Flooding is not the same as healing since he’s free to accept or not. It usually makes quite a difference because after all, all interactions are energy exchanges.

Author of ‘Healing Through Reiki’, Ashwita learned Reiki in 1997, and started teaching it in 2006. She now incorporates other forms of energy healing, as well as hypnotherapy and past life therapy in her work. In her free time, she enjoys cooking, crafts, reading and painting.

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