‘Mind’ing The Right Business
Sometimes I see a lot of ‘what if someone else is doing this’ sort of questions and I have something to say about this. The spiritual path is not easy, it has its traps and falls, and one big trap is the feeling of superiority and the habit of commenting on others. We receive so much information here that we then start analysing other people’s lives. This is not what this information is for, at all .
Trying to make sense of why someone is having a good time despite hurting others, trying to make sense whether someone else is attached because of the way they are behaving, or how much karma they are picking up based on how they are reacting – you are really wasting very precious time by doing all this, apart from maybe reversing spiritual growth, who knows.
This tendency of trying ‘figure’ others out is a dangerous one – we are practicing drawing conclusions based on partial facts, and this is a very dangerous habit. We forget that when we have the habit of drawing conclusions from partially available facts, we don’t truly benefit from spiritual teachings as well, because then we end up learning the wrong lessons. This is why I keep stressing on deep listening.
From now on, when a thought about someone else comes up, ask yourself if it is relevant to your existence.
For example, can I trust this person, does this action of this person indicate he/she is mean and I should be careful, is this person trying to cheat me or give me wrong advice, these are relevant thoughts to have about a person because they help keep you safe. But if it does not come under this category, drop it please. Focus on your own actions, if you really need to analyse. If someone kills themselves, feel free to ask yourself ‘would it be right if I killed myself’, but asking ‘is this person right in killing himself’ – you are wasting your time.
I understand none of us were raised this way, and that is why I thought it might be helpful to have some deeper guidance 🙂 if you follow it sincerely you will move much more smoothly on the pathway than currently.